Showing posts with label Small Group. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Small Group. Show all posts

Thursday, March 10, 2011

ARGUMENT IS THE LONGEST DISTANCE BETWEEN TWO POINTS

Marcel and I have been using God's Little Devotional Book for Couples for our daily devotional.  Each day it has a short and encouraging Bible Verse and encouragement words to start our day.


In our devotional time this morning, Marcel and I learned the "Seven Official Rules for a Good, Clean Fight" by Charlie W. Shedd.  


It was a good reminder for me and Marcel.  Living as a social being, conflicts are just inevitable at times.  May that be between a husband and his wife, friends, parents and children, siblings, teachers and students, fellow drivers on the road, co-workers, etc.


With that, I would like to share the seven rules by Charlie W. Shedd:
1) Before we begin, we must both agree that the time is right.
2) We will remember that our only aim is deeper understanding.
3) We will check our weapons often to be sure they are not deadly.
4) We will lower our voices one notch instead of raising them two.
5) We will never quarrel or reveal private matters in public.
6) We will discuss an armistice whenever either of us calls "halt."
7) When we have come to terms, we will put it away till we both agree it needs more discussing.


May this be a blessing to you.


  

Saturday, February 26, 2011

SG ACTIVITY: HUMBLING TEST

Here goes another Small Group activity we did.

Procedure

Let the participants lay their right palm flat on the ground or table.  If the answer is, "Yes," they shall raise the finger as instructed.

Question #1: "If you are married, raise your thumb high up."
Question #2: "If you are married to a fabulous/amazing spouse, raise your pinkie high up."
Question #3: "If you think marriage is the greatest gift from God, raise your index finger."
Question #4: Here is the last question.  And I asked the participants to be really honest in their answer.  "If you think you are the best spouse your spouse could ever ask for, raise your ring finger up high."

It is practically impossible to raise the ring finger with knuckles and other fingers down.


Take Away

This activity is a reminder that we shall be humble as God taught us to be.  A humble spouse.  A humble servant.  A humble child.  A humble co-worker.  A humble friend.  A humble person in general.  See how practically impossible to raise the ring finger when asked about how great of a spouse we are, that should be the attitude of our hearts too.

These verses I pray so that God continues to humble me before His eyes.

"God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble." -- James 4:6 (NKJV)

"If I must boast, I will boast of the things that show my weakness." -- 2 Corinthians 11:30 (NIV)

May this be a blessing!

  

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

SG ACTIVITY: JACKET ON, JACKET OFF

Here goes another Small Group activity we did last night.  We let the husbands have some fun with this.

Procedure

Have the participants take off and put on the jackets. Make a note of which hand goes in first.

Then, have them take off the jackets again.  Next, ask them to put on the jackets with the other hand goes in first.

Chances are they will feel "awkward" to put on the jackets differently.

Take Away

Growing up, we must have developed habits: good or bad; from observing or learning, etc.


Now, think about two individuals joint in a marriage.  From two different families joint in one.  As a result, one may often hear, "But, I've always done it that way."


That's right.  It's easy to develop and continue using unconscious habits.  However, there are often equally effective alternative ways to accomplish an objective.  For example in this activity, the end result is that they still end up with the jackets on.  Right?


Sometimes, it will require for us to "unlearn first" to avoid the old ways in interfering with our acquisition of the new behaviors .. the behaviors that can foster a better relationship with your spouse.


Remember, no one is wrong.  Just different.


May this be a blessing!


  

Thursday, December 02, 2010

SICKNESS ... BE GONE

Greetings, All.  Hope everyone had a wonderful time of thanking and giving.


I want to share with you how God had proven His power over sickness and grace over my family for the many many times.


Nov-23: Through Mammography and ultrasound, the doctor found "something" he's concerned of in my sister's breasts.


Nov-24: Praise the LORD, the "thing" is not tumor.  However, it's not benign either.  Is it cancer then?


Nov-25Second opinion told my sister to still do biopsy asap because the "thing" was not there 2 years prior.


Nov-29: MRI's done on my sister.


Nov-30: The MRI result found 7 bumps in her breasts, 2 in her ovary, and 2 on her liver.  Praise the Lord, only one of them that the doctor thought to be cancerous.  The one in her breast.


Dec-1: Biopsy's performed on that one bump.


Dec-2: Praise the LORD that the removed bump is NOT cancerous.  The doctor, however, indicated that my sister is still at a high risk of getting cancer and will need to be under close and regular cancer monitoring going forward.


My family in Indonesia had a way to handling the situation.  Not the kind of way that my sister would appreciate.  So my sister resorted to a different way of finding her strength and confidence.  A way that she's never asked for before.  That is through the prayer support.  For I believe in the power of prayer, joined by a dozen ladies in California, we prayed together at the same time for my sister as she's going through the different procedures in Asia.


And this is a message my sister posted on her social networking profile this morning:




I say, it deserves an AMEN.  Don't you think so?  The power of prayer is so mighty and powerful.  My God is bigger than our sickness and difficulties.  My God - not other worldly power - holds each of our destiny.  Where did we find our confidence?  In God's grace and power!


2 Corinthians 12: 9 - 10

But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness."  Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.  That is why, for Christ's sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties.  For when I am weak, then I am strong.


Believe in the power of prayer.  Believe that God hears your prayer.  Have prayer requests?  Email them my way.  :-)


May this be a blessing!

Friday, November 26, 2010

SG ACTIVITY: SMILE

Here is another Small Group activity we did at the Couples Small Group.  Of course it can be customized for other Small Groups.

Procedure

Have the couples look at each other.  And then ask each one to tell an angry story while smiling.

Chances are, they tend to giggle while telling the story.

Take Away

Do you know why they giggle?  It's because the brain can't register the story as an angry one anymore.  With the smile on our face, we're expected to tell a fun, exciting, or happy story right?  That's why it is hard to do; thus, they giggle.

So, what is the moral of the story?

Our society is teaching us "you get what you deserve."  This has caused us to love and respect with a condition -- when we feel like it and/or the spouse has respected or love us back.

However, the Bible teaches us differently - that wives need unconditional love from their husband as much as the husbands need unconditional respect from their wife.  So the Bible teaches us to love and respect in spite of.  It's not about what our spouse deserves.  It's about what our spouse needs.

Now, the challenge is, we are not naturally wired to loving or respecting unconditionally (y'all agree with me or it's just me who has this issue?).  From this activity, we learn that even though we feel angry on the inside, we can choose to display the emotion differently.  The best way to desensitize ourself to a word is to use it.  And the best way to desensitize ourself to an action is to do it.  For example, if you're afraid of the height, climb the mountain.  If you're afraid of the sharks, swim in the ocean.  If you don't feel like exercising because you catch cold, exercise.  If you feel down and don't feel like meeting people, go to a Small Group!!!  Do you agree?

The same concept applies to marriages.  When we don't feel like loving or respecting our spouse, that is actually the best opportunity to do the otherwise -- which is to love and respect her/him.

Marcel and I are practicing this now in our marriage and daily activities.  If you struggle like us and would like Marcel and I to support you in prayer, please feel free to email or call us.

May this be a blessing to you!

    

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

SG ACTIVITY: PINK ELEPHANT

We did this activity last night at the Couples Small Group.  You can use this for other Small Groups too.


Procedure


Provide this one-sentence instruction, "Do not think of a pink elephant!"

HAHAHA, did you have a figure of a pink elephant flashing on your mind after reading the instruction above?

Your participants might have a pink elephant flashing on their mind too.

Take Away

Our actions are done based on consciousness or subconsciousness.  When a pink elephant flashes on your mind, that is because the subconsciousness takes control of our mind.  Subconsciousness can be a good or a bad thing depending on how we go about it.

Let me give you an example.  Marcel likes to take his time in driving.  As a result, he tends to drive on the right lane all the way.  I, on the other hand, prefer to drive on the middle lane.  It's not the fastest lane; but we don't have to keep braking or yielding to the cars entering the highway.  It's such a waste of gas, I thought!

When Marcel is behind the wheel, he finds that me telling him which lane to take is very disrespectful.  So I've been learning to keep my mouth shut and trying to focus on the extra quality time I have with him in the car.  Unfortunately, not everyday is my good day.

One day, Marcel's driving us to Church.  As always, he picked the right lane and drove 5 mph below the speed limit.  The Service was starting in 5 minutes.  But we're nowhere close to Church.  My mind started to go crazy.  I grew impatient.  But I still tried to hold my mouth shut.

Then, Marcel asked, "Baby, where do you want to go to lunch today?"

I couldn't hold it anymore and said, "Babe, how can I be thinking about lunch when we're not even at the Church yet!"

Wow, what was that all about?  Imagine being Marcel.  He didn't know what went through my mind.  With all his good intention, he's taking us to Church and planning for our lunch date.  But all that he got was my disrespectful comment.

That's exactly the message I'm trying to convey to you, Friends.  In that situation, my subconsciousness took control of my action.  As soon as Marcel hopped behind the wheel, my subconsciousness told me, "Oh noooo, it's going to be another long ride to Church."  It then resulted in me subconsciously being disrespectful towards Marcel.  Little things that he did would really annoy me.

Now, looking back at that situation, I'm sure you agree with me that Marcel didn't deserve the things I said.  He deserved my respect.  And my action was a little way too much.  Now, I'm learning to choose to be joyful for the extra time when Marcel's behind the wheel.

I hope my embarrassing story blesses you one way or the other.  And you become more aware of your subconsciousness.  I pray that each one of us grow healthier and more positive subconsciousness.  Believe me, negative subconsciousness CAN be replaced with the positive one.  It takes effort.  But it is possible.  God makes it possible!

May this be a blessing to you!

    

Friday, October 29, 2010

SG ACTIVITY: DON'T PUSH ME (PART 1)

We did this activity at my Couples Small Group.  But you can tweak this to your Singles Small Group or whatever event you see fit.


Procedure


Stand up in pairs facing each other.  With palms open and against each other's, Person A stands with one foot in the front while Person B stands with legs open shoulder-width.  Next, have them place pressure against each other as if they are trying to push.  Instruct Person B to let go the hands at any time without notice.


Analyze 2 things:
1) See that when the pressure has been removed by Person B, Person A is actually leaning towards Person B
2) See if Person A's front foot is still in tact or if Person A's losing the balance completely


You can then ask them to take turn by repeating the procedure.


Take Away

When two people come in a relationship -- marriage, friendship, business partnership, ministries, etc -- each will come with his/her own personality, belief, and background.  More often than not, these will cause disagreement or tension to the relationship.  The first moral of the story is that when trying to solve the disagreement, sometimes it is best for us (Person B) to "remove the pressure."  The result as you can see in the activity is that by removing our "resistance or force," the other party (Person A) will actually lean towards you or "be on your side."  Whereas when you keep putting the pressure on, the relationship isn't going anywhere.

The second moral of the story is what do external factors (Person B) have on what you (Person A) bring to the relationship?  Are you rooted on something (ex.: your belief, your religion, the Bible, etc) firmly?  Or are you easily impacted and swayed?  Did your front foot stay still during the activity or you completely lost your balance?  For example, other people do illegal drugs or smoke to be "cool."  Would you do it for the sake of being "cool" or not do it because it's against what you believe in?  Another example is when there's an issue in the marriage, would you resort to divorcing like those Hollywood stories or be devoted to work it out differently?

My Couples Small Group had a great laugh and moral take away from this activity.


May this be a blessing to you too!

Thursday, October 28, 2010

COUPLES SMALL GROUP

Friends, I've been burdened to share with you about this since 2 years ago.  So here you go.


Roughly two years ago, Marcel and I were approached to facilitate a Couples Small Group.  However, it wasn't till 2 weeks ago that we started the Small Group.  So what took us so long?  Simply put it that Marcel and I were enjoying our comfort zones.  Too much that it became a stumbling block for our growth.  His Men Small Group was bonding and growing.  My Women Small Group has been my support since I moved to the Bay Area.  These ladies are the pioneers who embrace me as "Yanny" instead of "Marcel's wife."  I think I was accustomed to the Long Distance Relationship; thus, I really valued a personal identity.  It's a non issue anymore for me now.


Anyway, back to the Small Group.  In the past 2 years, I prayed and talked to some Ladies I look up to (like Ci Kiki, Elisse, Karen, Ci Joan, Silvi, Sharon, my mother in law, etc) about their experience in a Couples Small Group.  Slowly and steadily, I had a growing desire to be in one.  Marcel, on the other hand, had the opposite stand about a Couples Small Group after talking to some men.


We had to put the idea down so many times in the past 2 years until earlier this year that we learned there's a growing interest in our church for a Couples Small Group.  Fast forward 9 months later, God put us in contact with several couples.  Marcel was still skeptical about it.  I, on the other hand, didn't want to push him.  Because of God's work, Marcel's heart was softened.  One day he said that he "would give it a try for us and for the Church."


Oh boy, I was excited but more nervous.  Silly me, I had been focusing too much on being "a good Small Group facilitator" that I forgot God just wanted me to be me; and Marcel to be Marcel.  We just need to come as who we are, learn together to be a growing spouse God intends us to be, and hold each other accountable.  Ci Kiki, Ko Chris, and my Small Group Ladies all joined hearts to be praying with us for our struggles in getting "the vessel going."


Where we are right now?  Well well, we've been meeting twice for our Couples Small Group.  There's only us and the other couple (our neighbor JQ/Sharon).  Yes, it's a smaller group than we thought we would start with.  But these past 2 meetings have been such a blessing and rejuvenating for me and Marcel.  


Marcel even took the initiative to lead/facilitate the discussion.  The night before the meeting, Marcel was reviewing the material.  The logical engineer that he is, he started planning the schedule in a very structured way.  "If by 8 o'clock we can't finish dinner, then bla bla bla."  "If we're done with discussion by 9:15, then bla bla bla."  "If not, then bla bla ..."  It's funny in a very cute way I feel.  When I asked him how he felt after the Small Group, he said, "Whoa, Yanny.  That was good, wasn't it!!"  I really am pleased and humbled by how much God has stretched Marcel.  I know it wasn't easy for him.  So I appreciate that so much.


We're praising God for the opportunity to get to know our neighbor in a more intimate way.  Learning together on the "Love and Respect."  Praying with them and praising God together.  And one other thing, I really admire JQ/Sharon for being so patient with us.  They were actually the first couple who brought up the interest on Couples Small Group 2.5 years ago.  And today when we're finally ready, they still follow through their desire and put that into an action.  I know God will surely be proud of them for being responsible with their marriage and putting the investment of time and effort for this great blessing called marriage.


I look forward to what God will unveil through this Couples Small Group.


May this be a blessing!


    

Thursday, July 01, 2010

LOVING HARD-TO-LOVE PEOPLE

THE STUDY


Our One Month to Live study last week was based on 1 Corinthians 3:12-14.


"If any man builds on this foundation using gold, silver, costly stones, wood, hay or straw, his work will be shown for what it is, be cause the Day will bring it to light.  It will be revealed with fire, and the fire will test the quality of each man's work.  If what he has built survives, he will receive his reward."

In summary, there are 3 methods [fire] God uses to cultivate [drill/test] Christ's character [quality] in us to build a lasting legacy:
1) Problem that always comes with a purpose
2) Pressures of life to smooth our edges 
3) People in our lives

THE CHALLENGE

Our challenge for the week was to show love to the last 5 people in our call log.  For me, one of the people was my older sister.

THE EXPERIENCE

I don't know about you.  But for me and my sister, we ALWAYS have this love-and-hate relationship.  I miss her when she's far.  But I argue with her when she's close.  She can't stand how I'm becoming more americanized by following all the traffic rules.  I can't stand her for being so complainy (Why is the pasta green?  Why is the rice cooker taking 45 minutes to cook?  Why don't you have more furnitures at home?  Why do you live in 3rd floor?  Why can't you choose an apartment with an elevator?  WHY WHY WHY?)  An hour after she landed, I thought to myself, "Oh no, it's going to be the longest 10 days I will ever have."

It had to get worse before it got better for us.  At the end of the day, "You know what, we shouldn't talk for awhile.  You irritate me.  I irritate you."  So the next car trip we had, I was sitting at the back seat with her.  But every question directed to her was addressed as an open-ended question, "Anybody has a lip gloss?"  I mean seriously, Marcel and my sister's male guest could not have a lip gloss.  Obviously, only one other person could have a lip gloss.  Duuuuuuuuh.  Yet, I was being childish and selfish like that.  Talking about being a good role model ... NOT!  *yeah, not my proud moment, friends*

I was already at the end of the string before I was reminded about the challenge.  I prayed that God would show me how to love my sis-zilla (that's how I called her at the end of the day).  Opppssyy.  

The next day was her birthday.  I only had 5 hours of sleep that night because I stayed late to finish up work in order to leave early for my sister's birthday.  Guess what I did at 7 o'clock in the morning?  I was making dumplings for my sister!!!!  I mean, I normally get up at 9AM to go to work and rarely serve Marcel quicky cereal for breakfast.  And I made what for my sister?  I couldn't believe myself either.  Also, I didn't get up on an alarm!  Normally, I would snooze for an hour before, "Ahhhh, gotta bike now.  Or I'll be too late!"  The Holy Spirit SERIOUSLY woke me up that morning and made me cook hot breakfast.

And my friends, those dumplings were the start of our BFF relationship.  I haven't argued with her since then.  We're now so touchy feely, sending lots of "muach muach" throughout the day, and offering help anyway possible.  WHAT A CHANGE a prayer (and/or dumplings) can do huh?  Although I still have 3 more days before she leaves and anything can happen till then, I consider the past 6 days a wonderful work of the Holy Spirit.

THE TAKE AWAY


God uses people in our lives to enrich our character, to chip away at our selfish edges that prevent us from loving others the way Christ does.  Every one of us has people in our lives who are hard to love.  Just because we love someone doesn't mean that the relationship will go smoothly.  Remember that God is using people as His chisel to chip away everything in our lives that doesn't look like Christ so He can make our life a work of art.

May this be a blessing!

Monday, May 10, 2010

REJOICE IN HOPE; HOPE DOES NOT DISAPPOINT US

Got the police report this morning.  Unfortunately, there were items incorrectly stated in the report.  For example it stated that my bike lights were off during the accident; I failed to stop before crossing; and that I was the one who hit the car.  To date, the case officer and I haven't had a chance to talk about the situation.  So it surprised me to read those statements in the police report.  As the person involved in the accident, I felt like it's very one-sided.


If you've been following my updates from the time of accident, you have testified how God has blessed me with a speedy physical recovery.  Something I constantly give thanks to God.  However, mentally .. I must say that this accident has caused me and Marcel a lot of turmoil.  Dealing with the police, her claim adjuster, and lawyers really take the toll on both of us.  My co-workers even joked, "I think you became sick because of these people - not because of the accident."


I stopped to ponder when I got back to the office this morning, "So, is the mental turmoil really necessary?"  


Three weeks ago at my Small Group, we studied Butterfly Metamorphosis.  When the butterfly cracks open the chrysalis, its wings are tiny, crumpled, and wet.  It's extremely vulnerable to predators because of its inability to fly.  An hour after emerging, the wings are full-sized, dried, and ready for flying.  That concludes the development cycle of a butterfly.  What if we (human) interfere the cycle by helping to open that chrysalis for the butterfly?  Then its wings will never grow strong; and that it will die soon after emerging.


After pondering on this illustration, I came to accepting that the turmoil is necessary for me.  I am a butterfly in the making.  God is transforming me from the inside out - not too fast and not too slow - allowing me to mature in each step.  And the turmoil is part of my character building.


As for the police report, we're going to ask the police officer for some clarification.  Not sure how much longer to getting this done, what the outcome will be and what is next.  So if you would join me in praying the following verses for me, that will be greatly appreciated.  By the way, these verses arrived in my Inbox as I was pondering about the situation this afternoon; were sent to me by Theo - the gentleman I met at the hospital the day after my accident.  I knew God sent him as my deliverance.  And today, he reminded me of the great hope I have in God.


Romans 5:1-5

Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom also we have access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God.  And not only that, but we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; and perseverance, character; and character, hope.  Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us.


May this be a blessing!

Wednesday, March 03, 2010

CAROL SIM IN MY SALVATION STORY

Two weeks ago as I pondered on the One Month to Live challenge, God brought to me some thoughts that made me more so grateful for what He's done.


The challenge was to think about and thank the people that you have taken from granted.  About that same time, Pastor Lawrence Fung came to speak in our English Service.  He gave an illustration about buying a car.  Would you prefer to buy a car based on what the salesman "advertises" to you OR what your friend has told you about his/her experience with the car?  For most, it would be based on the friend's testimony about the car because it's the real life experience.  No sugar coat.  Then, Pastor Lawrence stated that we too can share the GOOD NEWS based on our experience with it.

For the next 3 days, something kept coming in to my thoughts.  As I reflected, I asked, "So God, you want me to think about people who had brought me into Salvation?"  Hmmm.  OK.

The next thing I knew, I was emailing my best friend Carol who is now back in Singapore.  In July 2005, Carol invited me to start a Bible Study together.  Without much hesitation, I accepted her invitation.  When I asked Carol in the email why she invited me back then, I was left in awe and full gratitude with her answer.  Carol mentioned that her initial intention was to witness to my other friend.  Since I introduced Carol to my friend, Carol thought she might as well invited me so that my friend would feel more comfortable and that Carol and I could build a stronger personal relationship outside of class.  At the end, it's only me and Carol.  My other friend never joined us for the Bible Study leaving Carol very disappointed. 

Then came September 2005.  I was invited to join another Bible Study by Deborah Lock -- an activist at the Church I was attending at the time.  She had been noticing me in the midst of the Caucasian crowd at the church (of course :o)) and decided to start a Bible Study with me on the Church's behalf.  At the end of the Study session on September 5, 2005, Deb extended the invitation for me to join the Heavenly family :-).  By then, I had been constantly exposed to what God had done in Carol's life.  Carol never stopped sharing her personal experience with God through the Bible Study with me.  As a result, when Deb extended the invitation, I wasn't that surprised or shocked anymore.  I knew and had heard the amazing things God had done for my dear friend Carol.  I wanted to be in that position too.


So I accepted the greatest gift that night of September 5, 2005.  The gift that no man could take away from me.  I prayed the Salvation prayer that night and felt the burden lifted from my shoulder as God took my sins away one by one.  From that day on, I have been a crooked pencil that God has been using to make a beautiful story in His book.


Just like the illustration about the car buying experience, I think God had sent Carol to my side to be that friend who shared the testimony on how the GOOD NEWS changed her.  Little did Carol know that God had used her to minister to me (even though her intention was to my other friend).  So for my One Month to Live challenge, I am grateful for Carol -- one of the people who had led me into my Salvation.  

My life hasn't been the same since September 2005.  It's been quite a ride.  And two weeks ago I just started to see the pattern of how God has been using this crooked pencil that I am.  For that, I am also grateful for the strangers and people that I've overlooked whom God have allowed to cross my path and bring about another blessing!  I was once overlooked; but now I'm found.  A blessing that came unexpectedly and unplanned in human's eyes.


How about you?  Who do you need to thank today?


May this be a blessing!

Thursday, January 28, 2010

THE DRAWBRIDGE KEEPER

I have been reminded again; and I am delighted for the reminder.  This story I heard from my co-worker Nadine and read in the One Month to Live book.  Please allow me to share the reminder with you today. 

There was once a bridge that spanned a large river.  During most of the day, the bridge sat with its length running up and down the river paralleled with the banks, allowing ships to pass through freely on both sides of the bridge.  But at certain times each day, a train would come along and the bridge would be turned sideways across the river, allowing the train to cross it.

A switchman sat in a shack on one side of the river where he operated the controls to turn the bridge and lock into place as the train crossed.

One evening as the switchman was waiting for the last train of the day to come, he looked off into the distance through the dimming twilight and cause sight of the train lights.  He stepped onto the control and waited until the train was within a prescribed distance.  Then he was to turn the bridge.  He turned the bridge into position, but, to his horror, he found the locking control did not work.  If the bridge was not securely in position, it would cause the train to jump the track and go crashing into the river.  This would be a passenger train with many people aboard.

He left the bridge turned across the river and hurried across the bridge to the other side of the river, where there was a lever switch he could hold to operate the lock manually.

He would have to hold the lever back firmly as the train crossed.  He could hear the rumble of the train now, and he took hold of the lever and leaned backwards to apply his weight to it, locking the bridge.  He kept applying the pressure to keep the mechanism locked.  Many lives depended on this man's strength.

Then, coming across the bridge from the direction of his control shack, he heard a sound that made his blood run cold.

"Daddy, where are you?"  His four-year-old son was crossing the bridge to look for him.  His first impulse was to cry out to the child, "Run!  Run!"  But the train was too close; the tiny legs would never make it across the bridge in time.

The man almost left his lever to snatch up his son and carry him to safety.  But he realized that he could not get back to the lever in time if he saved his son.

Either many people on the train or his own son -- must die.

He took but a moment to make his decision.  The train sped safely and swiftly on its way; and no one aboard was even aware of the tiny broken body thrown mercilessly into the river by the on rushing train.  Nor were they aware of the pitiful figure of the sobbing man, still clinging to the locking lever long after the train had passed.  They did not see him walking home more slowly that he had ever walked; to tell his wife how their son had brutally died.

Now, if you comprehend the emotions that wen through this man's heart, you can begin to understand the feelings of Our Father in Heaven when He sacrificed His Son to bridge the gap between us and eternal life.

Can there be any wonder that He caused the earth to tremble and the skies to darken when His Son died?  How does He feel when we speed along through life without giving a thought to what was done for us through Jesus Christ? 

Thank you, God, for letting me cross the bridge safely.  Forgive my ignorance of the big sacrifice You've done for me.  Sorry for taking You for granted.  Far from being perfect, I ask humbly that You will be patient with me as I'm trying to figure out Your way.  Thank you, Father.  Amen.

The story has also been adapted to a movie and touched many lives.

May this be a blessing!

Thursday, November 12, 2009

THE POWER BEHIND ME

About 2 months ago when my Small Group started the OMTL challenge, I have decided that if I have only 1 month to live, I want to be happier at work.  Here is what I blogged in September.  

As I prayed for an inspiration from God on how I could be happier, He whispered to me that I could start from being nice to everyone.  As much as we cannot change the situation and the people around us, we can always start from within.  So, I didn't argue back with God nor give Him any objection.  I had a very firm belief that He can make me happier at work.

I knew there's this one person at work whom I felt very negative towards.  This very same person was the reason why coming to work would be such a great burden for me.  So for the challenge, I prayed that God would enable me to put more effort on mending my relationship with this person.  

 It was a slow but steady work in progress.  My other co-worker told me that she used to be in a similar situation like me before (in her previous job).  She was treated unfairly and discriminated.  A strong Christian that she is, she prayed harder than ever before.  Every morning when she came in to work, she would touch the discriminating person's chair and pray.

So I did something similar.  Every morning, I would hover over the person's name on my AIM list and pray.  As I continued to pray for my challenge, God let me see what I had not been able to see because all this time I had been busy judging and hating what the person did and said.  I had been putting the person's offenses against me under the microscope while neglecting one or two great intention towards me.  How can we love someone if we're busy hating that person, right?

God had let me experience what I needed.  As God removed the hurt pin from my heart .. one-by-one .. day-by-day .. He restored each with a pinch of joy.  So today, with a great joy, I can tell you that I am happier at work.

As far as the person, this person is no longer with my group.  A little bit over a month into my OMTL challenge, this person was moved to a different group within the company.  But there you have it.  That's what God taught me in the one month of my One Month to Live challenge.

A challenge ahead of me is never as great as the Power behind me.

May this be a blessing!            

Friday, October 09, 2009

LEARNING TO BE A BRANCH

John 15:1-5
1 "I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener.  
2 He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful.  
3 You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you.  
4 Remain in me, and I will remain in you.  No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine.  Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.  
5 I am the vine; you are the branches.  If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.

This is a reminder from my One Month to Live study.

Our English Service will be -- for the first time in the Indonesian Evangelical Church's history -- hosting a Christmas Celebration in December.  A month ago, I met with Pak Tim for the first time to plan this Christmas Celebration.  After the meeting, I went home to put pieces together with mixed feeling of excitement and anxiety.  Feeling incapable, little and insufficient to carry the Church's great mission.

In my preparation, I constantly asked God, "Can we?  Should we?  Why we?  Why now?"  Sometimes I forget my role.  And I try to be the vine .. working on the planning to make everything happens according to the Church's dream.

Fast forward one month later.  It's Sunday, October 4 .. the first Christmas Brigade meeting.  It hasn't changed my perception of how big of a milestone this event will be for our Church.  Great milestone that requires great preparation and collaborative execution.  But one thing has changed in my prayer and understanding.

I no longer pray, "Oh Lord, help us grow the Church through this event."

I now pray, "Oh Lord, teach me what it means to grow."

As I prepare for this event, it's clearly laid out before my eyes how far we are as a Church from being prepared for the growth.  I believe it takes pruning on each individual before a Church can produce the best fruits.  With this changed understanding God implanted in me, I know I haven't lost anything but have gained abundantly just within a month of planning.  Even more after I have spoken to each Christmas Brigade.  I can't wait to see what God will lay out in the next 2 months.

I don't regret having spent every second in this planning.  As tiring as it has been and will be, I know God has promised that nothing will go in vain (1 Thessalonians 2:1).  He counts every sweat and second.  The Bible says that it is not up to me to produce the results.  Jesus is.  He will give me the power to do everything I need to do.  If it is not this year that we (as a Church) will generate a good number of newcomers from the Christmas Celebration, it is definitely this year that God is pruning each one of us harder than ever before.

If faith is not tested, it is not faith at all.  And if it is a test of faith that I am going through, then the Christmas Celebration is my end-of-semester celebration.  I'll celebrate it with Jesus' birthday.  :-)

For Christians, what looks like a detour may actually be a new road to blessing.

May this be a blessing to you!

Thursday, September 17, 2009

OMTL - DAY 1 - LIVING THE DASH

It's the start of our One Month to Live challenge. I learned that my life comes down to the 2 dates and 1 dash. The dates are my birth date and death date. While I have no control over the family I was born into, the race, the gender, and the day of my death, I know I have a full control over of how I live my life -- which is represented by the dash. Have I spent my time on things that matter? Or is my movement only to fill the hours of my days?

If I know I only have one month to live, my priorities will shift. As I prepared for the Day 1 study, I was reminded of the mayonnaise jar and 2 cups of coffee illustration I got awhile back. It is a kind reminder that I'm glad I get to read it again.

One thing about me is that I can't say "No." In the past, this habit has led me to over committing myself to secondary goals and taken my time away from my family. Marcel, on the other hand, is a very efficient person. Everything is black or white (important and not-so-important) in his world.

Understanding that both Marcel and I are sharing Quality Time as our secondary love language, I have learned to cautiously select my involvements outside of home.
The most recent decisions I made in the past week were to quit my other Small Group and to limit my Worship Leading schedule. It has been a very challenging thing to do because I love to be resourceful to other people as much as I can. Right now, I am just enjoying my extra time to spend with Marcel, especially since he will be away for work for 2 weeks.

While saying "No" to secondary goals will be an ongoing practice I need to remember doing, I added another action to my list as part of my One Month to Live challenge. Yesterday, I have decided to be happier at work. As much as I don't have control over the workload and people I work with, I know I have the control to treat my coworkers nicer -- without any exception. Today is day one to apply my challenge. It has been good so far. I haven't experienced the "happier" part yet. But I'm glad God allows me to proactively be nice to this one coworker in particular. :-)

Everyone dies but not everyone lives!

May this be a blessing to you!