As our teacher helped us think of the birth options and our priorities in case of complications, she asked, "Would you rather have a healthy mom or a healthy baby?"
Right until before that question, Marcel and I were still in agreement with the other options. We were easily able to put the options in the priorities we agreed upon. But that question had us thinking and discussing for awhile.
I chose "healthy baby" as my priority out of my mommy instinct. My reasoning is because as an adult, it is easier for me to cope with the "unhealthiness." But for our baby, being new to this world, it must be more challenging for him to cope. And it may need medical intervention too to cope since babies don't really have that self defense mechanism as mature as the adults do.
On the other hand, Marcel chose "healthy mom" because to him:
1) A healthy mom can better nurture unhealthy baby than an unhealthy mom can
2) A healthy mom (and the dad) may still have a chance to conceive more baby in the future to continue the generation. But that is not an option if there were a healthy baby and the dad only
His sharing got me pondering on our pre-marital counseling with Pastor Hosea. Pastor asked a similar question to Marcel back then, "If your wife and kid are drowning, who would you rescue first?" And Pastor Hosea explained to us the responsibility of a husband based on Ephesians 5:25.
"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her." -- Ephesians 5:25
It's only been 5 years since our counseling with Pastor Hosea. While this has been a very familiar concept to me, I again was humbled by how teachable, responsible, and respectful my hubby Marcel is. That teaching really resonated in Marcel's heart. He took his responsibility as Christ follower so seriously. He is convinced that what the Bible says is The Truth and The Light. And with all his humility, he follows through what the Bible guides him.
So going back to the birth plan, at the end we both agreed "healthy mom" first, and then "healthy baby."
"The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother." -- Theodore Hesburgh
I pray today for those who are still waiting for their soul mate to diligently pray and ask from God the soul mate that respects, fears, and follows the Lord. And for those who are married to an amazing spouse, praise the Lord constantly for that wonderful gift. Finally, for those who are yearning for a changed person in your significant other, I long to pray with and for you that God will pour upon your relationship His deliverance.
May this be a blessing. Please let me know how I can be praying for you today. If you're interested to hear a quick 1.5-minute encouragement today, you can listen to True Love.
Until next time,
The oh-so-loved-by-her-hubby Yanny
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