SG ACTIVITY: DON'T PUSH ME (PART 1)

We did this activity at my Couples Small Group.  But you can tweak this to your Singles Small Group or whatever event you see fit.

Procedure

Stand up in pairs facing each other.  With palms open and against each other's, Person A stands with one foot in the front while Person B stands with legs open shoulder-width.  Next, have them place pressure against each other as if they are trying to push.  Instruct Person B to let go the hands at any time without notice.

Analyze 2 things:
1) See that when the pressure has been removed by Person B, Person A is actually leaning towards Person B
2) See if Person A's front foot is still in tact or if Person A's losing the balance completely


You can then ask them to take turn by repeating the procedure.

Take Away

When two people come in a relationship -- marriage, friendship, business partnership, ministries, etc -- each will come with his/her own personality, belief, and background.  More often than not, these will cause disagreement or tension to the relationship.  The first moral of the story is that when trying to solve the disagreement, sometimes it is best for us (Person B) to "remove the pressure."  The result as you can see in the activity is that by removing our "resistance or force," the other party (Person A) will actually lean towards you or "be on your side."  Whereas when you keep putting the pressure on, the relationship isn't going anywhere.

The second moral of the story is what do external factors (Person B) have on what you (Person A) bring to the relationship?  Are you rooted on something (ex.: your belief, your religion, the Bible, etc) firmly?  Or are you easily impacted and swayed?  Did your front foot stay still during the activity or you completely lost your balance?  For example, other people do illegal drugs or smoke to be "cool."  Would you do it for the sake of being "cool" or not do it because it's against what you believe in?  Another example is when there's an issue in the marriage, would you resort to divorcing like those Hollywood stories or be devoted to work it out differently?

My Couples Small Group had a great laugh and moral take away from this activity.

May this be a blessing to you too!